Archive for December, 2008

The real gift of Christmas, oh my!

Thursday, December 25th, 2008

I’m still trying to get out a decoration or two at this hour — why bother, except that we are expecting a couple of dinner guests, lonely hearts who had no other place to go. Ordinarily I wouldn’t take time to blog on Christmas Day.

But after a rich and rewarding Christmas Eve service last night, I am still thinking about those who have no other place to go or to be on this day, to give and receive some love.

Fortunately, we had enough gifts come in last night so that I will be able once again (our fifth year) to take our annual gift cards to the 24 young people at the Jeff Griffith Youth Center in Hollywood. This is a residential program for runaways, throw-aways, kids who are trying to get back up after a hopeless descent into drugs or other addictions, even street prostitution or crime. Their stories would break my hart, except for the tangible love and spectacular results that the Center gets in helping youth get the life skills and job applications it takes for them to be self-sufficient and self-respecting.

But there are so many others out there. The Jeff Griffith program only has 24 beds, and the number of homeless street kids in Hollywood and Los Angeles is fearful — by some estimates in the thousands.

And I am thinking about the tens of thousands of LGBT people (and those for whom the four initials do not describe their life experience and self-understanding) who may be alone at Christmas simply because they have no one who listens, no one who understands or wants to understand, their hearts and the psyches.

The trouble with Christmas as many people see it is as the ultimate family holiday — where people who fit nicely into conventional families get to celebrate their normalcy and belonging, to the exclusion of those who don’t fit or don’t even have family.

But the Christmas Gospels tell a story which doesn’t support this, and tugs at our hearts to be open to those who aren’t in “conventional” families. (Of course, what is conventional nowadays, when more than half of all marriages end in divorces?) The Christmas Gospel tales touch on all the things that “nice” people want to forget or avoid, especially at the holidays.

  • Mary and Joseph weren’t married. Were it not for Joseph’s willingness to swallow his pride and to avoid his legal rights to have Mary severely punished, Jesus would have been illegitimate.
  • There was no room for them. The night Jesus was born, Mary and Joseph were far from home and actually homeless.
  • Where were their friends? Where was Mary’s mother, for Christ’s sake? The story implies the two of them had to deal with the birth themselves, in a dirty stable. Obviously, they were not economically prepared for this birth, the sudden travel, the lack of accommodations, the dirty conditions.
  • Within a short time (weeks?) the “Holy Family” had to flee for their lives. They became political refugees in a foreign land, in order to avoid the genocidal and evil King Herod, who had all the infants of Bethlehem murdered out of jealousy of a potential rival.
  • Most of all, they had to trust their own visions and dreams — their own discernment that God was working a great deed and a wonderful miracle through their faithfulness. That is the Christmas Gospel in a nutshell.

None of us knows 100% if God is working through us, either, unless we trust our own discernment. I haven’t been sure since launching this blog—primarily to reach out to LGBT Christians and others—that it is a god thing to do, or worth the effort. But then I checked the web statistics, and see there have been over 29,000 unique visits. That totally humbles me. It sort of worries me that I must personally probe more deeply, asa gay Christian, to discern what God is already doing that I should be a part of.But today God is doing what we understand so beautifully: God is coming to us again, and it is a gift of pure grace. If we can only discern this grace (Christ is a gift, life is a gift, we are God’s gifts to others), we can turn the world upside down. And we can find the home, family, warmth and welcome, that so many people do not have today. Quoting Mother Teresa—which I saw not in some pious book but painted on the wall of a nearby restaurant on Vermont just a block from our church—”Noone can help everybody, but everybody can help some one.”

We can be God’s gift to another person—to listen, to understand, to welcome, to uphold when lonely and confusing times in her or his life seem overwhelming. Forget the stuff and the gift wrap and the tinsel. Be the gift someone is longing to receive.

— Pastor Dan Hooper, Los Angeles

Obama, the Whirlwind and the Serenity Prayer

Monday, December 22nd, 2008

Rick Warren to give an invocation on the day after Martin Luther King Jr. Day, a.k.a., Inauguration Day. But I am just as mystified as the next gay.

Wayne Besen (www.truthwinsout.org), who is usually insightful and on target, has ventured that maybe Obama is smarter than the rest of us, since he is well known already as turning conventional wisdom on its head and succeeding. “This olive branch to evangelical Christians, who largely supported John McCain,” writes Besen, “felt more like poison ivy to gay and lesbian voters, who overwhelmingly cast ballots for Obama.” (“The Rick Warren Whirlwind“.)

Typically, I ignore mega-churches as personality cults on steroids, if I don’t vilify them entirely. Mega churches also seem to blossom in the rich soil of America’s obsession with success —the suburban accumulation of wealth, power and prestige. The mega churches with which I am familiar are all rooted in upwardly mobile suburbs, or in places where the people who passionately desire that lifestyle can get to them.

Yes, wealth, power, prestige and mega-anything are all matters of lifestyle. No wonder the religious right uses that term on us. The very word must be on their lips all the time.

In October, I sat down at the same table with some evangelical Christian leaders —all representing independent Christian ministries (beware those who label themselves “non-denominational.” Read: not accountable to any larger entity), and some heterosexual non-judgmental types. They are exploring the building of bridges between the evangelical churches on the right and the welcoming/reconciling churches on the left.

I am still trying to be sympathetic to their reconciling offer, but the days after the November 4 “Yes on 8″ victory, I was sorely tempted to cut off any conversation. What was especially bitter is that a representative of Rick Warren’s Saddleback Country Club was in on the first meeting I attended. If she hadn’t been such a sweet young pastor’s wife I might have gotten testy on the spot.

It is clear that Warren’s Club is “the Unwelcome Place”, as this blog quotes/summarizes for you:

“Finally, a word about being judgmental. It’s not judgmental to say that what the Bible calls a sin is a sin, that’s just telling the truth. Not being willing to talk to someone caught up in sin, or not believing that they can be forgiven, or thinking that you are not just as much in need of Jesus as they are … that’s being judgmental.Because membership in a church is an outgrowth of accepting the Lordship and leadership of Jesus in one’s life, someone unwilling to repent of their homosexual lifestyle would not be accepted at a member at Saddleback Church. That does not mean they cannot attend church – we hope they do! God’s Word has the power to change our lives.”

Well, yes, Rick, it does have the power to change our lives. God’s Word has changed my life enormously over the years. But God’s Word, like worrying, has not changed a lot of things that I used to sincerely pray about. God’s word has not made me one inch taller (Matthew 6:27) for example, nor one point straighter on Alfred Kinsey’s scale.

I am frequently in conversation with God about my shortcomings, my failures, my limitations and the darkness that sometimes lurks in my psyche. With the power of God, I think I am gradually becoming a better human being, but I am not so foolish as to suppose that whatever I do I am somehow able to shine it on with God. In fact, my conversation with God have led me more each day to realize that I am on God’s good side purely and only by reason of grace. Not self-denial, not abstention, not self-hatred, not spiritual warfare, not loneliness or lovelessness.The truth is, being lesbian or gay or transgender or any of a thousand other measures of human variety and distinctiveness, seem to be the work of a diverse and creative God who is not nearly as upset about our human variations as fundagelicals are.

If I were to take on another prayer campaign with even greater confidence in the power of God’s word, I would have to use the Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”

If I were a little more mean-spirited, I would ask Mr. Obama if he had ever tried praying away his black skin. After all, the power of God’s word can change our lives, right? But maybe Mr. Warren can make that suggestion to Mr. Obama in person.

— Pastor Dan Hooper

Wrong choice, right choice and privilege.

Saturday, December 20th, 2008

I’ve been doing some more thinking about whether LGBT people “choose” their sexuality, and I’ve concluded that when others make that accusation, it’s not even about us, it’s about them.  Here is the entry I’ve added to gaycatechism.net.

Whether being a sexual minority is a choice is going to continue to captivate the public policy debates, the “culture wars” and the anxiety in the churches. For right-wing Christians, “choice” equates with “sin.” To be lesbian or gay or transgender is the “wrong choice.” And to be bisexual seems to prove their point (even if it is a gross misunderstanding of bisexuality).

We should remember that mainstream, conservative rejection of us is not isolated from mainstream conservative rejection of many other things in our changing society.

Fundamental to the persuasion that we have a choice (in this case, about our sexual orientation) is that the supremacist/racist/heterosexist and upwardly-achieving class is that they have made all the right choices in life, which explains and justifies their positions of privilege. It is about them and the superiority of their achievement, lifestyle, ethnic purity, education, marriage and nuclear family. It is “all about them,” and the god they have invented to bless them for making all the good choices.

Seen in that harsh light ~ yes, it is a harsh critique ~ LGBT people are only one category of human beings on which the right wing is inclined to look down. Heterosexual privilege is closely linked with economic privilege and class, with white privilege, conservative Christian privilege, and ultimately political privilege. The key thing for you and I to understand is that we should not have to defend ourselves against the view that we have made a “wrong choice” in our innate sexuality.

Quite the opposite, those who claim all manner of privilege in our society should feel the need to defend their accumulation of privilege. The Bible and the Christian Gospel make it clear that God does not identify with the privileged, but with the poor in spirit, the hungry, and the oppressed.

So says Jesus in the beatitudes which begin his Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5:3–12):

Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

“Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.

“Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.

“Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy.

“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. “Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

“Blessed are you when people revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”

And so says Mary in her poem of praise to the Almighty when she hears the announcement by the angel that she will bear a son:

. . . “My spirit rejoices in God my Savior,

for he has looked with favor on the lowliness of his servant. . . .

“He has shown strength with his arm;

he has scattered the proud in the thoughts of their hearts.

He has brought down the powerful from their thrones,

and lifted up the lowly;

he has filled the hungry with good things,

and sent the rich away empty.”

In our reading of Scripture, we dare to claim the grace and favor of God because we read the Scripture not from the position of privilege, but from the position of oppression. We no longer imagine God to be the Ultimate Control Freak, whose strict moral law tightly controls every aspect of our lives, but the God who rights what is wrong in this world by turning it right-side up: bringing down those people who cling to and rationalize their privilege “in the thoughts of their hearts,” and lifting up those who have been reviled, persecuted and the object of all kinds of evil accusations. 

— Pastor Dan Hooper, Los Angeles

What if it is a choice?

Thursday, December 18th, 2008

The United Nations General Assembly is hearing a French statement this week about “human rights violations based on sexual orientation and gender identity, including torture, arbitrary arrest, killings, political, social and economic discrimination and the criminalization of same-sex love.”

Lisa Neff’s cogent and thorough opinion (“The Sins of the Pope”) on 365Gay.com is helpful and clear in trying to get people to see moral issues in a clear light that does not allow hypocrisy to hide.

There are still 86 nations in the world which criminalize sexual behavior between persons of the same sex, and 7of them stipulate the death penalty. But as Neff reasons, the Roman Catholic Church is less concerned about the death penalty for intimate same-sex acts than it is about discrimination against people who discriminate!

“All the European Union members, as well as a number of non-EU countries and Latin American nations, have signed on to the statement to decriminalize homosexuality. The United States, however, has not signed on to the document.

To anyone’s surprise?

And the Vatican has taken a stand against the statement.

To anyone’s surprise?”

Since the Vatican has publicly stated over and over that homosexuality is intrinsically “disordered” it believes that open season for discrimination against us should not be limited.

“In defense of the Vatican’s opposition, Archbishop Celestino Migliore said a statement to decriminalize homosexuality would lead to bias against those who discriminate against gays and lesbians. ‘If adopted, they would create new and implacable discriminations,’ Migliore told Reuters. ‘For example, states which do not recognize same-sex unions as ‘matrimony’ will be pilloried and made an object of pressure.’”

Neff’s point is that the death penalty, which some segments of the Roman Catholic Church have publicly opposed, is apparently less serious a moral violation than two people of the same sex being in love.What’s wrong with this picture? It is all too easy to throw it all at the feet of Roman Catholic teaching (and of course at the feet of the United States of America, which has dragged its feet on virtually everything good and decent from human rights to the Kyoto protocols). There is a lot to throw down there, including the fact that the same Roman Catholic Church which, during the Inquisition five centuries ago, executed heretics and “faggots” by burning them at the stake, has never recanted from it’s medieval evil. The Vatican’s Office of the Inquisition never actually shut down. It is still in existence more than 500 years later, but it was renamed the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith and, until recently, was headed by Cardinal Ratzinger, who is now Pope Benedict XVI. Benedict, whose papal name means “blessed” apparently sees little internal conflict between being blessed and attacking the right of human beings to live without fear of brutal violence and execution simply for being who they are.Ahh, but here is the rub. The intractable Roman Catholic view is that homosexual behavior is not intrinsic — it’s not about who we are but how we behave. Behavior can be modified, they insist. Human beings can desist from doing evil, and choose the good. Of course they haven’t asked us if any of this fits our life experience. And of course they haven’t explained what is so morally evil about two people, who happen to be of the same biological sex, loving one another. What if it is a choice? What makes it an evil choice in their view?

No, they have simply defined our way of being as a propensity for an evil behavior. And they make clear, over and over, decade after decade, that their moral view for Roman Catholics should prevail over all human beings also.

Sadly, Vatican reasoning is not based on any rational construction of theological teaching. It is based on the irrational and circular reasoning that human beings should not have the human right to just be different. Their irrational point of view is based of course on the idea that homosexuality is not a given in the human personality or human nature, but is a choice. They reject the empirically verifiable evidence that human beings are in deed quite different from one another, in thousands of physical, psychological, and emotional ways. For such Luddites, any variation or difference from the norm which the Vatican has designed is clear evidence of sin, moral error, disorder, or evil.

Our movement has spent decades trying to explain, convince and defend the point of view that the homosexual orientation is not a matter of choice but is a given for a minority of the population – a minority which remains pretty consistent across the centuries and the cultures of the world. The Vatican point of view simply rejects this—and 40 years worth of psychological research and studies—because it is foundational for their entire system of prejudice. To admit that human beings do not choose, but discern, their sexual orientation would collapse even quasi-rational theological and legal arguments to defend prejudice.

In his first book, Dreams From My Father, Barack Obama, summarizes the internal dissonance he began to feel as a child when he first became aware of prejudice and racism, and I think his description fits our experience of irrational homophobia equally well. He explains his reaction to seeing a Life magazine photograph of a black man who had tried to peel off his own skin:

I suspect I was one of the luckier ones, having been given a stretch of childhood free from self-doubt. . . . But that one photograph had told me something else: that there was a hidden enemy out there, one that could reach me without anyone’s knowledge, not even my own. When I got home that night . . . I went into the bathroom and stood in front of the mirror with all my senses and limbs seemingly intact, looking as I had always looked, and wondering if something was wrong with me. The alternative seemed no less frightening— that the adults around me lived in the midst of madness. [New York, Three Rivers Press, 1995, 2004, pp. 51-52.]

With the election of Obama as President we might comfort ourselves that the racism which fueled terrible violations of human rights, including cruelty, violence and the death penalty for centuries against people who are of a different color, is on the wane. But don’t look for the defenders of systemic homophobia, such as 86 nations of the world and the Roman Catholic Church, to change any time soon.

— Pastor Dan Hooper, Los Angeles

Help, my eyeballs can’t stop rolling!

Wednesday, December 10th, 2008

Hearing recently on MSNBC that Pat Boone had become completely unbalanced (not the same as unbiased) in comparing the terrible Mumbai terrorist massacres with the demonstrators in the streets of California who hope to overturn Proposition 8, I think my eyeballs have become permanently stuck—rolled as far back as they can roll!

Leave it to Joe’s blog to link this to a previous column on “World Nut Daily” in which Boone does suggest that the pro-gay marriage forces are jihadists. After trying to link Obama with the 9/11 terrorists, the Christian folk singer/wingnut says, “The jihadists in these organized, hugely funded attacks on our morality and virtue are not Middle Eastern – they’re homegrown Americans who actually believe they’re promoting a better America by destroying the foundations on which this nation was built!”

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Joe, whose profile can be found on MySpace, claims to be a 49 year old biological male in New York, and does as credible job of covering anti-gay religious news.

Help! We’re oppressed!  After years of psychological advances in which individuals and classes of people have tried to stop whining about being victims (and therefore being co-dependent with their victimizers or oppressors), now the fundamentalist Christians seem to be taking over this role.  The Moral Majority of Ronald Reagan’s days has become the Oppressed Majority because demonstrators have taken to the streets to say “Shame!”

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The context of Boone’s wacky remarks are the street demonstrations of people who are furious about Proposition 8 squeaking into law. I’ve attended these street demonstrations here in Los Angeles – a spontaneous combination of webanatics, liberals or libertarians, old-style gay activists, you name it. But “organized, hugely funded attacks on our morality and virtue” they are not.

Especially the “hugely funded” part. We spent our wad on the “No on 8″ campaign. Who has anything left?

Isn’t there a place for senile Christian class-B folk song singers to go when their capacity for reason has atrophied? Apparently Pat is too far gone to realize that the extremism of his rants and ludicrous accusations actually help our side. In the long haul, what do we have to fear if there are only moneyed Mormons and nitwit fundagelicals like that foul-mouthed “babdist” preacher from Topeka on the other side?

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— Pastor Dan Hooper, Los Angeles

Dangerous new activists write mission statement

Thursday, December 4th, 2008

Last night I attended the back half of a long meeting of Act Up Now (morphing from Unite the Fight), as they continued to organize themselves into a new movement for direct action for equal rights for lesbian and gay people. Specifically: marriage rights, but they may not stop there. The meeting, involving about 25 women and men, was primarily a double committee meeting gearing up for the next big thing:

Next Thursday, their first Town Hall meeting will be held December 11, 7:30 p.m. (at Hollywood Lutheran Church, 1733 N. New Hampshire Avenue, Los Angeles 90027, the No On 8 Church).

What was interesting to watch was the dynamics of a new movement being born, and the temper of today’s activists. This group in Los Angeles (“Son of Act Up”) has a new mission; these are new times, and they are finding new energy.

Although it might seem that “direct action” is highly confrontational or angry or violent, this group of thirty-somethings and older were hardly any of that. They have careers after all, even SAG cards. And they peaceably used their basic knowledge of Roberts Rules of Order to make and second motions, allow for discussion and then vote, for example, on their mission statement. Some were concerned that “direct action” tends to sound violent to the media, and in its coverage of recent street marches, we were portrayed as angry (correct) and dangerous (not correct). “Carry candles,” I whispered. “You always look peaceful carrying candles.”

Another snag was whether to speak for the rights of Queer people, or should that be Queer folk? Or Lesbian and gay people?  Or gay and Lesbian people?  What words are inclusive, specific, not too cumbersome, not alienating? Passed over were acronyms like LGBTQ.

The man next to me wondered what “Q” meant in that string. “Questioning,” I whispered, temporarily feeling like I am very much “in the know,” enchufado. Truthfully, where has he been?

But why use the word “questioning” as part of the beneficiaries of direct action to secure equal marriage rights? Would a “questioning” person have to propose to another “questioning” person in order to enter a same-gender marriage?  The group more or less reached consensus that they are ready to fight for equal marriage rights for Lesbian and gay people because those are the people who have lost their equal rights with the ballot “victory” of Proposition 8 one month ago.

Not that bisexual and transgender, queer and questioning people haven’t also been set back by ballot box bigotry. The folks on the other side, who pretend they are protecting or preserving traditional marriage are still the same people who wanted and have fought hard for two decades to deprive all of us of all of our rights: the right of a gay/lesbian person to teach in California schools (the Briggs initiative), the right to secure housing and employment.  They could hardly have used a “preserving traditional employment” argument, for example. When Anita Bryant mounted her successful campaign in Dade County Florida more than 30 years ago to rescind the rights of Lesbian and gay people, it was to deprive them of their inherent right to work. “Homosexuals will wear dresses to work,” she cried with her sweet Florida orange juice smile, as if that should be self-evident to all decent people.

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As if to illustrate what “decent people” (my term) might mean to activists in 2008, the term “all sexual minorities” was also rejected by consensus. Why? Because, as one person ventured, that could imply we were fighting for all kinds of sexual fetishes. Others nodded in recognition of a dangerous semantic opening for our enemies to slam us again.

There are a lot of fringe people out there, like the men of NAMBLA who want to legalize “inter-generational” sex (sex with underage kids), or who simply pursue sexual expression through fantasies and acts that I can’t fully imagine let alone want to describe (including heterosexual ones). Is this avoidance of such fringe populations another sign that an oppressed minority in willing to step on other oppressed minorities below them in order to climb higher?

Hardly. For years in this so-called culture war, our detractors have successfully been able to portray all Lesbian and gay ~ and bisexual and transgender people (although those categories are hardly on their radar) ~ as twisted sexual perverts who want to carry on all kinds of really depraved sexual acts. Well, today’s activism for marriage is not an effort to decriminalize the statutory rape of minors, or to legalize sex acts in public parks and restrooms (sorry, Senator).

Activism for marriage is a movement toward accepting responsibilities for another person and seeking equal civil rights to protect one’s own relationship from the harsh realities of the world.  We aren’t trying to protect marriage in general, in the abstract (and not in the imagination of Christian conservatives).  Marriage can take care of itself. This movement is fighting to protect our own commitments with the equality to which we are entitled under the law.

As to these other groups? If they have serious civil rights issues, they will have to light their own candles.

— Pastor Dan Hooper, Los Angeles